Friday, December 31, 2010

Links I love





The Victory of Noticing :  "I have moments that I am so caught up in do this, do that, go here, go there that I don’t even notice that all my little guy wants to do is sit on the living room floor and have story time or play trains."


Photographing Newborns....with the new camera now in the picture, I am spending a little time trying to figure it out so I can give this "third child" a bucket full of fun pictures. 

I have the urge to go for a walk and I have the realization that in the next three weeks I need to suck the living daylights out of owning my body and having some time to grocery shop alone or sit in a coffee shop alone, at least once.  Because soon I will be a milk machine and will get the glory and pride of toting around a little miracle that I know is going to be all I want to do...most of the time (since I HATE lugging those infant car seats!).

During the Rose bowl we will be tasting this...if I can get my hands on some fresh raspberries...they didn't have any at the store this morning. boo!
And there are days when I read Pioneer Woman's blog and think...man I would like to pack up my family, strap some chaps on Ed, and go give it a try.....for like a day.  It sounds like hard work but reading her posts about the ranch life, seeing her beautiful pictures, and realizing that there are children out there driving trucks and roping cattle, at the age of 8 or 10 or something, gives me such peace in my heart.  I guess making homemade bagels with my boys is as close to the basics as I get.  She just makes it look so fun! 

Let's look back and chuckle...

Below is the New Years Eve Goal post I wrote for this past year. 
It gave me great pleasure to see what I had to say last year at this time. 
Everyone should give themselves the opportunity by journaling their resolutions so they can see where they came from...because I will admit, I haven't thought about my resolutions since January 2010! haha! 

New Years resolutions are meant to be made and then usually broken. I am determined this year to do better with goal setting and achieving. I have already set some goals with a couple great girlfriends... I haven't been really good at accomplishing them yet, but I will say, they are definitely on my mind - the goals and the friends. So I am going to share a few goals that I am pondering....and my plan is to take them and break them down from time to time to establish pieces that I CAN achieve...because when goals are too big and too broad they become overwhelming.


So this year...I am thinking about...


Health - Out with the old...jeans...In with the new... jeans!
I am hoping to eat right (less snacking and better portions) and work in a manageable exercise program so that I can feel better and get into some of my old jeans and make them new again.
Bwha! ha! ha! ha!  I made it into some old jeans...they just happened to be maternity! 




Children - I am going to strive to enjoy every second of the next several months. Charley will start kindergarten in 2010 and that thought sits in my stomach like a rock. I am not ready to hand him over to the real world. Yet, I know he is so ready. I want to enjoy these last few months of choosing to go where and when we want....pj days...outings...playdates....mom and son time while Hank naps. Henry too is going to be in for a shock when Charley ventures out each day. So I want to continue to encourage their brotherly relationship. I want to be present and patient with them daily.
Morning Kindergarten has been a blessing in our life.  Charley loves school, the stimulation, and the friends.  He comes home and the boys are excited to see each other and play.  It has given our day a nice blend.  I have the same goal for next year in some respects because next school year Charley will be gone ALL. DAY. LONG.  I am going to try and enjoy the chaos that is about to ensue when our third joins the ranks...and I can't wait to see what our new normal is...but having all three of my children under my wing for afternoons is a blessing. 


Marriage- We will celebrate 8 years of marriage in 2010 and we are starting to get to the meat of our marriage...we are in the midst of owning a house, raising two boys, and balancing personal time and enjoyment. I want to continue to encourage Ed to go for his guy time while keeping our regular date nights frequent. I also hope to give more kisses and have more patience.  We had some dates...he went golfing...twice...he got hunting...


Self- I will continue to strive to find things that challenge me, bring me joy, and contentment. Being home every day can leave one feeling un-challenged...blogging, cooking, finding time with friends, and other things remind me that there is self to this role as Mom. I want to either go for a weekend with girlfriend(s) or my sister and mom...or have one planned for 2011..if that is when it works out best. I will continue to force myself to leave the house one evening a week whether it is for grocery shopping or drinks with a girlfriend.  I had months where I had friends reminding me to get out.  It will be hard for a while but it is still an important goal for my personality.   No weekends with girlfriends or mom and sis...but I did have an overnight with girlfriends and a snowed in weekend all to myself this fall.


Home- I hope to be more aware of our finances...Ed, we will sit down and you can teach me...and I would like to make an effort to save for a home improvement project - big or small. This means I will still work hard to spend less during the week on groceries and outings.
We did not sit down and go over finances...just not fun.  But we need to do this in January 2011.  We started a bathroom renovation...that sits stagnant at the moment.  I need to get my butt in gear and pick some stuff ...from what I hear. 

 
World- I will continue using our reusable grocery bags and napkins. This spring I would like to help Ed build a compost bin so we can keep growing with our earth friendly ways. I also am determined to get our boys out camping this summer.
We did not go camping this year.
We did build a compost bin.
We still use our reusable grocery bags and napkins! 


Life- Life is so good. And it is so easy for me to get wrapped up into negative thoughts and worries. It is so easy for me to get snappy at myself, my boys, or my husband...and my mom. Why do I do that? Not sure...but there is NO EXCUSE! I will strive to find grace each day and remember - life is good. Slow down. Take it in. Make someone else's life brighter by being more positive.
This goal I should read EACH and EVERY day.
 Hobby- Blogging has become a daily hobby for me. It challenges me and helps me appreciate the little moments in my life. It is a place to reflect and motivate change in my role as a woman and mother. My hope for 2010 is to continue to challenge myself with this hobby. I would love to strengthen my writing, photography, and interactive blogging skills. I know of so many bloggers that have made lifelong friends through their blogs. I would love to get to know someone new through blogging...either reading theirs or reading mine.
Huge growth for me.  I switched late last year from a family named blog to For the Love of Naps...I had 16 Followers...and now I am over 170.  I have been given opportunities to review/ giveaway fun things.  I have made some blog friends that I speak of in normal conversations like "real life" friends because they are real life friends...I just don't see them face to face.  But commenting, reading, emailing, and instant messaging have made them friends. 
I also just got a DSLR camera and have taken steps towards bettering my photography skills.  Signed up for my first class in January...with Ed.


Tonight we are feasting on : Meatballs, homemade guacamole, shrimp cocktail, smoked fish, buffalo chicken dip, cheese cake, chocolate fondue, homemade bread, sushi, and more...yes we over did it. But I am excited to be hosting two families who live close by as neighbors but have also become good friends! Happy New Years friends and family! May you celebrate safely and end 2009 with a smile on your face. 2010 is going to be a great year!

Thursday, December 30, 2010

My soon to be three year old...



Henry had the days counted down to him today by his daddy for his upcoming birthday. There are 6.

And he has been floating all day with the thought of this upcoming celebration.

If we mention it he says, "My birthday today?"
We then remind him in 6 days...January 4th.
As I clean up for New Years today he thinks we are prepping for his party. 

He has talked about a party. Sadly, I don't think he is going to have a party. But now there is this gut wrenching twist in my stomach that says I NEED to bring on the streamers and the kids. Since he took in Charley's first kid birthday, he is envisioning this for himself. But we had stated this doesn't start until Kindergarten - but he is too little to get that. I truly think on his day if we do some special family activities, open some presents, and see a friend he is going to be thrilled.

And I tell myself this.

But then moments pass and he wanders to my side and his little hand finds my knee and he says, "Mama, I have cupcakes at my party? I invite Elly?" and I now have tears as he walks away proudly, not waiting to even hear my response.

So...anyone want to come to this little guy's party...what to do? Even though Charley didn't have friend parties early - he had family come because it was a better time of year for travel. This time of year is hard with weather, holidays, etc.

But this is just what I fear about Henry's position in the family...middle child. He deserves to feel all powerful on his birthday. And we will make that happen...with or without a big party...that involves Charley's friends or our extended relatives...because he is too shy around the friends he could claim as his own. 

Tuesday will be big.
It will be big!
Especially for me his mama.

Thursday thoughts...too many possibly!

We have had a nice holiday week off from the school routine, but Ed has been working late, and the days get long.  I have NO idea how friends do it, the whole letting their kids stay up past 8pm.  Yes, the idea of them sleeping in appeals to me.  But my boys wake up fresh and are downstairs playing Superhero memory right now at the kitchen table.  But at 7pm I am unleashing some serious witch attitude on them these days, they are tired and usually crash within 10 minutes of leaving their room.  And frankly, the couple of hours I have before conking out myself are serious revitalization time for this almost 37 week pregnant mama.  I treasure having an hour or two before passing out to do something that gives me joy - unrelated to the two busy bopping boys.

Yesterday I dragged them to see the Disney movie Tangled.  LOVED IT - I did.  I felt like Disney made a classic with that movie.  The boys enjoyed it too.  We shared popcorn and held hands at time.

Henry is counting down until his birthday next week on Tuesday.  He will be 3.  He is ready - I am not.  I love his year of 2.  He knows when he is three he will go to preschool.  He will be a big brother.  He will continue to cork us with the things he says and does.

I have done great unloading and loading the dishwasher all week.  Reading a parenting book I got for Christmas reminded me that no matter how tired a mama is - taking the 10 minutes to clean up the kitchen at night can truly impact the entire mood the next morning.  I find much more peace coming down to a kitchen ready for the breakfast rush....a cup of tea sounds that much more relaxing...and the still dark outside hour just seems more cozy when there isn't a heaping pile of dishes caked with dried on mac and cheese, ketchup, and yesterdays scrambled eggs.

I admitted to our neighbors the other day that my boys have been eating a TON of cereal for dinner lately.   They don't eat it so much at breakfast.  But come dinner I am exhausted.  With Ed working late or even if he isn't - I just haven't had the inspiration to cook something more.  The "Brinner" thing is wearing off - who would have thought that "brinner" could get old.  Charley has been known to sadly say, "Mama, why can't you cook something hot."  And my response is usually an excited, "I can make you a piece of toast."  When in my head I am annoyed and wanting to throw his bowl of golden grahams in the microwave and give him something hot to complain about. hahaha!  Just kidding.  The boys have been really good about the cereal for dinner, or the pancakes...or the scrambled eggs....

I really only want to wear sweatpants these days.  I know I am happier if I actually dress in jeans and a shirt that takes some effort.  But man alive, sweatpants are just cozy and right now...cozy is comfortable.

The doc couldn't get me in this week.  Which is fine...but it does leave me wondering if there are any changes.  I will see him next Tuesday, on Henry's birthday.  Since Henry turns 3 on Tuesday - we also signed up for a big brother class next weekend.  The boys will be reminded that it isn't their job to take the baby out of any of the contraptions and bring him/her to me.  They are instead to come tell me if they are concerned about the baby.  I am hoping that Henry is as good at knowing his limits as Charley was...we never had a dragging the baby too mommy moment with Charley as a new big brother.  Henry has a different personality.  I will be curious.

January 1st is around the corner and it is time to start thinking about new years resolutions.  I need to look back and see what mine were for last year.  But I think words that will be in mine this year consist of:  taking each day, enjoying our reality, patience, patience, patience, patience, getting out alone...eventually, savoring every late night feeding, making my husband a lunch each day whether he eats it or brings it home for the next day, and letting the house go for the next couple of months and enjoying the snuggle time, extra board game time with the big boys while I nurse this new little miracle, and figuring out my camera more and more and posting a picture daily.  Hmmm, I am actually impressed, I have quite a few thoughts already.

I got one of these last Christmas and have LOVED them - I ordered them the other day and would love for them to arrive today or tomorrow so I could do one of my favorite things this weekend - fill out a new calendar.  I LOVE filling out calendars! 

Thinking of my sister this afternoon as she takes care of herself.  May we always have each other to remind ourselves that it is the most important thing mama's can do - stay on top of our healthy selves.

I have truly enjoyed blogging this year, I will have to reflect on that sometime in the near future.  But lately I have been emailing with some of the blog friends I have made this last year.  And Ed laughs when I refer to them as friends just like my "real life" friends (Natasha had her baby!  Danifred said....Meghan thinks we should name our baby...Rebecca's twins ...Brandi said... and the list goes on).  But they are.  They are not 50 year old freaky men leading lives of lies as weird entertainment on the internet.  Rather they are amazing women who share their thoughts on their own blogs and take the time to comment, email, inspire, answer questions, and chit chat during the day. 


Savoring these next couple weeks - the boys are at a point where they can get up and head downstairs for a little independent play before I have to roll, yes literally roll, out of bed.  And I know that this is all going to change in a few weeks...mostly looking forward to the rolling not taking as much effort and the warm little snuggler that will curl up on my chest.  But listening to them putter around and "build something for mom" or "play this game" or "shoot this down" or "go hide here" makes me smile - that smile lasts a few moments and then there is usually a crash, some yelling, someone starts crying and that is my cue that the dream is over and it is time to go down and intervene. 

Freezing rain and then snow coming today.  I am going to bundle them up in their PJ's and head to Target to get our New Years groceries RIGHT NOW before breakfast and I am going to be the thing I rarely do...and promise them the donut of their choice if they are good shoppers.  Because I want to get there and back before the world becomes a slick slippery mess.  Then we are home for the day and I am not going to put expectations on how much TV we should or shouldn't watch, how much wii we should or shouldn't play, how long they want to play in the luke warm bath with their science tools, how many jelly belly beans I am going to sneak (let's be real - I already ate my holiday stash).  Today is going to be great! 


Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Going from 2 to 3...thoughts...


The holidays have passed...well not New Years...but Henry and I spent a quiet hour yesterday taking down our Christmas tree and other decorations.  It was an hour I found filled me with grace.  I am starting to feel anxious that I am not ready for this baby to arrive...even though physically I am starting to feel more than ready.  I had high expectations for this chunk of time (Sept-Jan).  I had planned on concentrating on giving Henry and I a chance to enjoy the mornings just him and I.  I think we have...but there is so much I had wanted to fit in with him that we haven't gotten to do.  I still have a few weeks with just Henry in the morning and I am determined to relish it.   Baby number three is going to arrive all to soon and even though I am trying to tell myself to relax and enjoy these next couple weeks with Charley and Henry, I am finding myself lying awake around 3am worried that I haven't absorbed life with two enough. 

Today for instance we headed to the zoo with friends (a pro mom of three girls). 

And she shared that she is enjoying having her first grade daughter home this week.  She misses it...since first grade means all day school.  I am truly enjoying the stimulation that half day kindergarten is giving Charley.  It gives Henry and I just enough time to get something done and the boys have wonderful afternoons (most of the time).  It has really been a blessing for our day.  But it is hitting me that next year Charley will go for a whole day and both Henry and I are going to miss him.  It is when you hang out with friends and absorb what they are saying that you are gifted with a realization that makes you stop and smell the roses...and for the rest of the week and school year and summer I am going to relish the yummy brotherly afternoons and the chance to enjoy all my children for half the day! 



With Charley and Henry living without naps - I am feeling overwhelmed with how I am going to recooperate from the birth and catch up during those first few months when baby is waking all too often for the cuddly nursing time - all. night. long.  I know that for a while there will be a few more cartoons, wii games, and movies in the afternoon.  But keeping my moods even, my sanity under control, and my patience present....has me unable to sleep lately. 

Yet, I am so excited to start our new routine, meet this new little one, see Henry turn into a big brother, snuggle this new little heartbeat, and find out what we name this little he or she. 

Today at the zoo, Charley noticed that there is a new penguin exhibit coming this July!  I pointed out that baby will be able to see the penguin exhibit and come July, he or she will be able to sit up in the stroller and take it in!  Crazy! 

Time is flying.  Life keeps plugging along.  These next couple weeks will be filled with moments of anticipation, exhilaration, excitement, and anxiety.  And that is what life is all about. 


Scenes from Christmas Up North






Merry Christmas morning!

Merry Christmas, from our house to yours.
I finally got a free moment or two before the 7pm hour when I resume the horizontal position with my feet elevated (Thanks Jessie!).  
Charley woke first and thumped back and forth between the top of the stairway and his bed.  
Henry finally woke.
Mama headed down to grab the camera...
And the excitement began!


Santa brought each boy a snow fort block builder, a book, a puzzle, and a Lego set (as requested)...and those large blocks that Santa must have had to assemble.  Their stockings...knitted by my Grandma were filled with test tubes, eye droppers, Star Wars Pez, and a few other little items. 

Mom and dad gave the boys things like science tools, new electric toothbrushes, wii games, fishing accessories, books, and other little things.  The boys didn't have any HUGE desires this year which made shopping easy and difficult.  Lego sets though are huge, as they cost and require some assistance so I spent the morning, along with Ed, helping little fingers assemble their Lego vehicles.







2 different perspectives...


We did pause mid morning to enjoy some of these.  My new favorite hostess gift...and I bought some for our house.  Ubake, found in Milwaukee, WI, but also around our area in MN, has tons of yummy frozen dough treats.  And I discovered these jumbo cinnamon rolls a month or two ago.  And boy are they easy and delicious (and I am not a huge fan of rolls).  But they make the house smell so cozy so I can't resist.

It was a delightful morning followed by a tired afternoon that brought out some of the crabbiness that follows a week of celebrations, travel, lots of present opening, gifts that require too much parental assistance, and personal desires of how we all wanted to spend our time...that didn't all jive.  

But cozy our day was. 
Home we were. 
PJ's were worn all day.  
Merry Christmas!


Thursday, December 23, 2010

He will remember...


This young man is getting it this year. 
He will remember the giant tree at Grandma Charlie's.
He will remember the mound of "santa" gifts at Grandma Barb's.  
He won't just be excited to go to Grandma's, like he was this year.  
Next year he will be anticipating more of the holiday part of things.  

Last year he enjoyed it - but I don't think he remembered it.  
This year he is taking in every moment - following his big brother's lead - and he will remember. 
He. will. remember. 
 And I am trusting that I will remember all of this too!

To all the other moms out there...enjoy this stage that your child is at.  Don't wish it away.  Don't anticipate next year.  Just enjoy the magic that they are able to comprehend this year.  
Children make this season so much more worthwhile.  

Christmas up North - has begun!

We made it up north....even after a doc appointment that confirmed I am now dilated .5 centimeters and baby's head is down putting plenty of pressure on mama. And so we are enjoying a quiet day in the northwoods with Ed's family. They got snow yesterday that weighs the trees down beautifully. The 18 foot Christmas tree that is actually hanging from the ceiling illuminates the tree house with a warm glow.  I am trying to keep my feet up to alleviate the "I have a bowling ball between my legs feeling."

Life is good.... and when in the northwoods....one must expose their sons to the snowmobile that sat resting for at least three years in Grandpa's garage....


As a mom of two boys...with a possible third on the way...I have to find the joy in the roar of a snow mobile.

And the natural roar that escapes my oldest son's deep belly places when he sits alone on the machine. 


Two years ago I probably would have been biting my nails as Uncle Mike zoomed up and down 5th Avenue with my 6 year old.  


But now I feel the excitement that they feel because I know that their life is expanding and becoming fuller! 

I also watched my boys jump off the deck onto a huge mound of snow that daddy and Uncle Mike made when they shoveled off Grandma's deck. 



Wednesday, December 22, 2010

WOW! All I can say is WOW!



Monday, December 20, 2010

Snow break...

Saturday afternoon we bundled the boys up and got them outside for some fresh air...it was also my first attempt at taking my new camera outside (big deal for this mama!).  They needed to get some energy out so that the romping, running, and wrestling that naturally happens when there are three excited boys, the excitement of the holidays, and uncles that liked to get everyone revved up.






Joy

Joy was seen....

...while catching up with those we love.


...while opening presents....


...while hanging out and relaxing....


...while lounging and napping... (I think my sister is beautiful here!)


...while playing games with cousins!


...while greeting those we haven't seen lately!


...while catching a cat nap...hoping no one would notice.  Yes, that is Ed, he literally crawled behind a chair in the corner and fell fast asleep.

...while seeing the wonder.




Watching my boys give thanks to their Great Great Uncles.


Joy - Tis the season!

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