We have a rip in a piece of our leather furniture.
It was made bigger today by one of the boys.
Henry was found hiding while Charley announced, "LOOK WHAT HENRY DID!"
Henry says Charley did it.
After separating them, giving them time to think, and lots of questioning, Henry still says Charley did it. However, he has had issues with lying lately and we aren't sure if Henry really understands lying. Charley has now come forward that he did it after some questioning about if his finger would fit in the hole etc.
So we appreciate that Charley has now told the truth.
WHAT DO YOU DO FOR CONSEQUENCES for the lying, the blaming, and the destruction.
My background is using Logical Consequences. I want the consequence to fit the crime. I am stuck on what the consequence is to lying, blaming your brother, and then what do we do for the destruction of our nice furniture. We understand that we choose to invest in it with little kids. However, after Charley made the hole in the van a while back we thought we had gone over the whole we are a family and we take care of our home. Obviously this didn't sink in. So we need something more drastic.
Do we ban him from that room for the week...which means no TV, Wii etc...however, this ultimately bites me in the ass since it is my first full week with all three.
Do we make him pay for the damage?
We did buy a protection plan for this furniture so we should be covered...but we haven't contacted them yet.
We need advice! How do you teach a newly turned three year old about lying? Because he has been caught lying lately too.