Thursday, February 25, 2010
Children listen, they hear, they figure things out - and then ultimately, they repeat. I try really hard to keep my cool, to use language that I am okay with them using. But sometimes, I am normal, and I make a bad choice. Lately, I have been paying attention to things I hear other kids say either around me and my children, in books, on TV, in cartoons...etc. And there are a few that have stuck in my head.
Boring - My boys do not say or use the word 'boring' yet. I HATE this word. Maybe because of my background as a teacher. It drove me nuts when I worked hard on an exciting lesson and then before we even started the students/ or usually A student would say, "this is going to be boring" which ultimately influenced several others, and if I wasn't on my toes and ready to preform - the dynamic of the entire hour changed.
It drives me nuts when kids use the word boring to describe something. In the world we live in there is very little opportunity for boredom...and I think it is all perspective. I am so proud that my boys don't use the word boring ...yet. I know it will come. And it will be okay. But right now, this is something we don't say in our house. And I love that their perspective is just not seeing boring as an option.
Stupid - this eeks out of my mouth from time to time when I am frustrated at something and as soon as it comes out you can hear me taking a quick inhale of breath - praying that my boys didn't hear it, absorb it, understand it. This word will come too...but five years without it coming out of the mouths of my babes is awesome.
Whatever - this word was talked about recently with a few fellow moms at Henry's ECFE class. We all agreed that it is not usually used respectfully. I know I use this word myself much too often. Charley has used it a few times and it was said with an eye roll...but the way he used it was aimed at himself...if that makes sense. Not sure if that means it is okay - but I am not ready for the eye rolling and Whatever remarks. Especially when they are aimed at his embarrassing mother. I think I have a few more years before I have to worry about that one.
Language is a tough one. There is so much that comes out of my mouth that is habit. When you have children you try your best to change your language to be peaceful, intelligent, meaningful, and articulate. Yet - we are all human and each family has their own little ways of verbalizing excitement, fear, frustration, and anger. We all choose to name things using different words that are comfortable for ourselves.
What have you heard that makes you cringe? Or what do you say that you have to try really hard to say differently?
I really wonder what I say that I am not aware of - and how it is already impacting my boys language. More to worry about....but not today - today will be filled with fun - nothing boring!